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Sat, 09 Jun 2007 19:51:39 GMT

A year? Xanga? Me?

What are you guys talking about?!

Oh. You mean I used to like... give semi-lousy advice on Xanga? Huh...

Well okay. Whatever you say..........

So where am I again?

Wednesday, June 14, 2006

Wed, 14 Jun 2006 05:27:00 GMT

...Life isn't ALWAYS the greatest. My advice: roll with your punches.

Sometimes... I guess we've gotta do what we've gotta do. More often than not, it's gonna hurt, no matter what it is... but it is what it is. And what it is, is a situation that's beyond your control; beyond anyone's control. It's one of those occasions when out of nowhere, you're confused. And every way out of the problem feels like it'd hurt.

And it's true, it does hurt. But in the end, it's a solution either way. In the end. Anyone who claims that life is always easy is dead wrong. Face it: you're gonna encounter conflict regardless of how good things might be at one given moment. The only thing you can do is fight through it and get back to good. You'll get there, in the end, don't doubt that. Life isn't a straight line.

Please keep in mind, too... things aren't always what they seem. I say this in regards to good things, and bad things. What might seem like a perfect situation might be a cover... might be poised to fall at any given moment. But in the same respect, what might seem like the worst situation ever might bring about good things, too. The road might be long; but nobody said it wouldn't have its ups now and then.

Again.. all you can do is cope, and hope. Deal with what's hitting you right now as best you can, and have faith in the fact that things will get better if you try. But you DO have to try... if you're in the middle of a dangerous intersection, you don't just stop and park your car then and there.. you look for the best, safest exit. Catch my drift?

And let me tell you; you need to believe things will get better. It's called "self-fufilling prophecy." When if you believe in something so much, in your own eyes, it will become true. You need to stay as positive as you can... if you do, positive things will happen.

And finally... don't live in fear of your past. Take it from me: there are some things too good to give up entirely. Don't give up on people that you've had one or two painful experiences with. If you share a truly priceless friendship, you'll be able to fight through it. Don't think that the past is uneraseable. Forgive, forget, and enjoy.

Don't get me wrong here though. It's still gonna hurt sometimes.. you might wonder what happenned; where it went; what went wrong; why it had to happen to you. But if you can live by anything above... it'll be far, far easier. Trust me.

~Tim

Sunday, May 28, 2006

Sun, 28 May 2006 05:14:33 GMT

Sometimes... life is just surreal.

Sometimes it's like a vivid dream. Everything you feel, every word you hear, every sight you see feels.. almost hazy. All the sounds of the world make an intricate pattern so easy on the ears that you feel as if you could gently fade to sleep at any moment. And above all, you hope you never have to wake up.

Surreal... like it really is too good to be true. Like you're being teased with all this happiness.. and that it should be yanked away from you by the rude sound of an alarm clock. Like maybe the light of day will interrupt all this happiness that you don't usually know so fondly. But the sun DOESN'T wake you up.. and the alarm clock doesn't go off.

You feel like maybe you should be asking yourself, "What did I do to deserve all this?"... but you don't. Because the moment is too good to question. Life is too good to question.

I think what I'm trying to say is that there are these surreal times in life.. times that feel like a dream. But there are also times that are more like nightmares. Life doesn't ALWAYS seem so great. But it's too short to waste feeling ashamed, searching for pity. The only thing you can do is know that that nightmare you're feeling right now... will become that dream one day... as long as you want it.

And if you do want it, and keep your head towards the sky... and gently fade off into sleep one given night... you just might find yourself in the midst of one of the greatest dreams you've ever had before you know it.

And that dream will be playing out.. no, not when you're asleep.. but in broad daylight. It doesn't get much more amazing than that... trust me.

<3 Tim

Friday, May 26, 2006

Fri, 26 May 2006 22:38:58 GMT

Choo-Wok wishes you a happy summer!

~Tim

Sunday, May 21, 2006

Sun, 21 May 2006 06:00:04 GMT

...There are times in our lives when everything... is completely indescribable.

These times when one person in life can give you this shiver... a little chill of pure emotion. And let me tell you right now; that's a good shiver.

That one person that can make you stop in your tracks. Mention of her name makes your heart skip a beat. You find yourself smiling without noticing. When you see her, suddenly... any other problem or conflict in life becomes petty and useless... the joy of seeing her overpowers all other feeling entirely. She can make everything right.

The one person, who, when she smiles at you... when you get a chance to look into her eyes... makes you feel perfect. What she does to you is like what a little rain does to withering ground... it gives it life. She gives you life.

And that one person makes you feel like you're the luckiest person to ever walk this earth, just because you got the chance to meet her in the first place. Being graced with her presence is better than any other feeling. Just the thought of her can light up your day. She means everything to you.

And she's the one person you trust with everything you have. She knows you like the back of her hand, and you know her like the back of your hand. You can tell her anything; you can vent, you can cry, you can laugh, you can just TALK to her.. and you know she'll listen. She's the best friend you have.

And when one person can make everything right... give you life... mean everything to you... and through it all, be the best friend you have...

You've stumbled upon a feeling that cannot be summed up into any words. Human lips can't describe that sort of emotion, the feeling that you get when you see her. You can only feel it. You can sleep well on the fact that you would give up your world to be with this girl.

Because when you can feel that way about one person...

You may have just become the luckiest man alive, just to be able to call her yours.

Indescribable...

<33 Tim

Monday, April 24, 2006

Mon, 24 Apr 2006 21:34:12 GMT

Yeah, we all try to live life in our own best interest. We try to do what'll make us the happiest in the long run, even if that means doing what makes someone else happy. It all just depends on who you are, but bottom line, we try to make the best decisions to make our lives great.

But does it always go quite right?

You've heard that line, "Hindsight is 20/20." You think you made a good decision one day, then the next day once everything is said and done, you look back and say "What was I thinking?" That happens to everybody. That last relationship you were in that ended badly, that last big purchase you made on something that wasn't near worth the money you paid, the advice you gave your friend that ended for the worst.

Let me get one thing out of the way right away: It happens. It happens to me, it happens to you, it happens to the guy you bumped into in the hallway today. We all make poor judgement calls now and then. So don't worry about that.

It's about what your heart says to you. Your heart is the one that pushes you into dating some guy/girl you like. But eventually, maybe you realize that you made a mistake in the long run. And that's where we run into a potential problem: Your heart's decisions are NOT long-run, they're rather impulse. Your heart tells you to do what feels good RIGHT NOW. In the end, maybe it was a mistake... but does that mean you aught to deny everything your heart tells you to do?

Absolutely not.

A little while back I told you that everything happens for a reason. That goes for every decision you make. Everything you do was meant to happen! Every guy/girl you started dating that broke your heart, every time you decided to have fun instead of doing homework, every choice you ever made that ended for the worse, was the RIGHT decision.

Now you might be asking yourself, "What does he mean?" I mean to say that every good AND bad thing that ever happenned, is happenning, or will happen to you was supposed to happen. I assure you of this.

So what I'm saying is this: follow your heart, for better or for worse. It's what'll make you the strongest person you can be, and I guarantee you'll have the time of your life on the way there. Your heart isn't always right... but it's always right. It's the way it was meant to be.

Live for the moment.

~Tim

Monday, April 24, 2006

Mon, 24 Apr 2006 04:01:54 GMT

These are words to live by. It's a transcript of a Commencement Address from 1997, by Baz Luhrmann. It was put into song form at one point... ask me if you want to hear it. It's truly brilliant.

Live your life by these words:

Ladies and gentlemen of the class of '97...

Wear sunscreen.

If I could offer you only one tip for the future, sunscreen would be it. The long-term benefits of sunscreen have been proved by scientists, whereas the rest of my advice has no basis more reliable than my own meandering experience. I will dispense this advice now.

Enjoy the power and beauty of your youth. Oh, never mind. You will not understand the power and beauty of your youth until they've faded. But trust me, in 20 years, you'll look back at photos of yourself and recall in a way you can't grasp now how much possibility lay before you and how fabulous you really looked. You are not as fat as you imagine.

Don't worry about the future. Or worry, but know that worrying is as effective as trying to solve an algebra equation by chewing bubble gum. The real troubles in your life are apt to be things that never crossed your worried mind, the kind that blindside you at 4 p.m. on some idle Tuesday.

Do one thing every day that scares you.

Sing.

Don't be reckless with other people's hearts. Don't put up with people who are reckless with yours.

Floss.

Don't waste your time on jealousy. Sometimes you're ahead, sometimes you're behind. The race is long and, in the end, it's only with yourself.

Remember compliments you receive. Forget the insults. If you succeed in doing this, tell me how.

Keep your old love letters. Throw away your old bank statements.

Stretch.

Don't feel guilty if you don't know what you want to do with your life. The most interesting people I know didn't know at 22 what they wanted to do with their lives. Some of the most interesting 40-year-olds I know still don't.

Get plenty of calcium. Be kind to your knees. You'll miss them when they're gone.

Maybe you'll marry, maybe you won't. Maybe you'll have children, maybe you won't. Maybe you'll divorce at 40, maybe you'll dance the funky chicken on your 75th wedding anniversary. Whatever you do, don't congratulate yourself too much, or berate yourself either. Your choices are half chance. So are everybody else's.

Enjoy your body. Use it every way you can. Don't be afraid of it or of what other people think of it. It's the greatest instrument you'll ever own.

Dance, even if you have nowhere to do it but your living room.

Read the directions, even if you don't follow them.

Do not read beauty magazines. They will only make you feel ugly.

Get to know your parents. You never know when they'll be gone for good. Be nice to your siblings. They're your best link to your past and the people most likely to stick with you in the future.

Understand that friends come and go, but with a precious few you should hold on. Work hard to bridge the gaps in geography and lifestyle, because the older you get, the more you need the people who knew you when you were young.

Live in New York City once, but leave before it makes you hard. Live in Northern California once, but leave before it makes you soft.

Travel.

Accept certain inalienable truths: Prices will rise. Politicians will philander. You, too, will get old. And when you do, you'll fantasize that when you were young, prices were reasonable, politicians were noble and children respected their elders.

Respect your elders.

Don't expect anyone else to support you. Maybe you have a trust fund. Maybe you'll have a wealthy spouse. But you never know when either one might run out.

Don't mess too much with your hair or by the time you're 40 it will look 85.

Be careful whose advice you buy, but be patient with those who supply it. Advice is a form of nostalgia. Dispensing it is a way of fishing the past from the disposal, wiping it off, painting over the ugly parts and recycling it for more than it's worth.

...But trust me on the sunscreen.

~Baz Luhrmann

If ever you feel lost, confused, or you just want a little clarity... read these words. I do.

Best wishes,
~Tim

Sunday, April 23, 2006

Sun, 23 Apr 2006 04:36:26 GMT

What if we didn't have voices?

Maybe it'd make the world a better place. That way people wouldn't say things other people didn't want to hear. Nobody would have to face the truth of things that might hurt. People couldn't lie. Just think of it; a world of 100% honesty.

...But is this glass half-full.. or half-empty?

100% honesty? No... that's not the case. Not at all. When things go unspoken... when you hold something back because you'll worry about what effect it might have on somebody.. you're denying truth, not creating.

You see... sometimes, no matter how heavy or monumental it might be... people need to tell people things. Don't worry about how that person'll take it, but if you choose not to tell somebody something, you're choosing not to be completely honest with them. It might be tough... but no matter what the situation is, I firmly believe that honesty IS the best policy.

Of course, there's a logic behind it that anyone can understand; the things that we hold back from other people aren't small, petty things.. they're big, important things that usually hold a pretty big impact. And most often, that impact isn't good. So why would we want to make things "worse" by telling them?

That's fair enough. But stop and think about that for a second. Walk a mile in someone elses shoe's and you can learn a lot. So put yourself in that person's position! What if you knew that someone was keeping you in the dark about something? What if you knew that someone, probably important to you, chose NOT to tell you this, when both of you know that it's probably pretty important? ...You probably wouldn't feel too great.

And that's the point I want to get across. I want you to use your voice to keep your life pure and honest. Don't tell yourself that not telling somebody something important will just make it go away. Because even if it's something that's in the past... you never know when it'll resurface, or become MORE important. And even if it NEVER resurfaces... it will always live inside someone: you. Put your mind at ease... and let it out.

Honesty... it's necessary in everything. Relationships, friendships, anything. Use your voice... because I speak from experience when I say that clarity is one thing in life that everyone wants. You have the power to keep it there...

So use it. You'll be happy once you did, even if the effects aren't so great. Your heart will rest easier. And so will everyone else's... on the inside. Truth may or may not have good effects.. but you can't tell me that lies do either. Lies just make things a little less pure. Truth resolves itself in time.. always for the best.

It's the way to go... I can't put it any other way.

~Tim

Friday, April 21, 2006

Fri, 21 Apr 2006 04:27:46 GMT

I missed you guys. Let's talk. Like old times.

...Yes, sure enough, life moves along at the same pace it did a month ago, a year ago, a century ago. Sometimes it's hard to believe how fast it goes, isn't it? Then at other times it's unbelievably slow. Yet it marches on, constant, never ending, never slowing down or speeding up for anyone. Time just.. happens. The secret to life is learning to make the most of that time... and above all, accepting it.

Because I can't lie you; life isn't always that wonderful. Sometimes, our schedules get so full we don't know when we'll ever be able to relax again. Sometimes pressures intensify a couple notches and all you can do is worry about what you'll say next. Sometimes, things beyond our control just happen. And it's times like those where we WISH we could just... skip a week or two of our lives. Just move past it, get it over with, and get back to life as we knew it. Right?

Of course we do. Nobody likes dealing with any type of pain, that's just how we are. But stop... no, not time, just stop what YOU'RE doing... and think.

When we're sitting in a classroom and getting taught something, it's pretty easy to drift off and completely miss the lecture, isn't it? But given the opportunity to go out on our own and learn things hands-on, the way life was supposed to be... it sticks with us. Sure, we'd rather be off playing a game of football or hanging out at the mall... but sometimes we've gotta do what we've gotta do. And through it, we grow wiser, much faster that way. Now apply that concept to life.

The only way we can grow up is through experience. The only way you'll be ready next time your girl/boyfriend breaks up with you, is knowing how it feels in the first place. Life isn't something we can learn in a book... it's what we do. It's what shapes us and makes us who we all are: unique, amazing individual people.

I'm trying to say that we ALL have hard times sometimes... and you have the perfect right to be upset when it happens. But when everything is said and done... you aren't hurt. You're older. You're wiser. you're you.

All this said, always remember the one, key piece of information you could ever know, good times, bad times: Everything happens for a reason. When you tripped up the stairs yesterday... you were supposed to. When your grandfather died a month ago... it was to be that way. When you meet someone you love, you met him/her for a reason. Everything is that way. Sometimes we don't know what the reason is right away... but in almost every case, we WILL know. In time.

And time.. marches on. Steady, ever-changing. That's life. It's always gonna surprise you. I hope you leave this blog excited for those surprises... because everything that is, is. I'm not telling you that every surprise is gonna be great... you're bound to have a rough day now and then. But I want nothing more than for you to wake up every morning saying to yourself "Well... I wonder what's in store today." Every day is a new day.

Ready? Set?

Live.

~Tim

Sunday, April 16, 2006

Sun, 16 Apr 2006 06:24:01 GMT

Gosh people, it's called RISING SUSPENSE! Bubble up all this anticipation and turn it to pure awesomeness; THAT'S what my next real entry will be like!!!

I hope.

Happy Easter!!!!!

God bless you. ~Tim